Sex is awesome. Or at least is can be. However, if you’re having the same kind of sex, over and over, sometimes that repetition is enough to bore your socks off. When this happens, most couples start looking for ways to spice things up. That’s great if they’re more mainstream. Conservative couples have an endless amount of pre-charted kinky turf that the more adventurous have already tried. Not only that, but there are how to guides to help them figure it out.
For the BDSM community, we often find ourselves running out of ideas. We’ve tried anything and everything to help heighten our sexual experience during our scenes. For us, however, there are fewer places to turn to and some of them are just too extreme. (Just because we’ve lost interest in our current, predictable pattern doesn’t mean we need to amp up the severity of our play time.) Whether you’re a sub or a Dom, sometimes you just need something new to experiment with. It can be hard to find, especially since we’re what normal people turn to to spice up their sex lives.
All Is Not Lost
Just because it’s hard to find, it doesn’t mean it’s impossible. There are some sites of BDSM that have yet to be explored in depth and they can be a real good time. We have tested the sites, check our reviews here: thekinkyfactory.com/reviews/bdsmsingles/. Choose the top dating site from our reviews and start having a good time. If your game is related to humiliation at all and your partner likes anal play too, you could try a line of butt plugs that have extensions on the end in the shape of tails. Once inserted, you can make them squeal like a pig or walk them like a dog. It’s a new way to play the animal game, and it can be a really nice touch to their humiliation. Make sure that, if you include this toy into your repertoire, you also get some mirrors. It’s easier to embarrass them if they can see their new tail for themselves. You could also combine this with a bit or a feed bag for our pony lovers. The possibilities are endless, and the tails gives a nice handle to manipulate the butt plug even at a distance.
If your sub has a penis, enjoys being retrained or told when and how he can please himself, you should consider looking into a chastity cage. These are typically made of metal but they may vary in material. They consist of a tube into which the penis is inserted and a handcuff. Once fully in, the handcuff is closed behind the balls, preventing the man from being able to remove the cage. This can be used to tease him during a session or provide an added measure of insurance that he is abiding by your rules when he’s away. Though not recommended for long stretches of time, this can be a good way to keep him thinking about you either as a build up to your scene or as a special friend to keep him company throughout the day. (If you want to see this for yourself, try looking up a real BDSM site like BDSMSingles.com for some picture examples of use.)
If you like to give your sub a little electrotherapy, either in a doctor patient scene or as punishment, you should look into electro-shock gloves. These things will cost a little more than the other toys we’ve listed so far but man are they fun. Of course, they have limitations on what parts of the body should be avoided, but that’s no different from a cane or a flogger. The gloves are designed to deliver a safe shock to the sub’s body, delivering both pain and stimulation to the afflicted area. Imagine a scene where you’re the patient who’s been diagnosed with whatever mental illness floats your boat and your doctor is there to try and heal you. Or, for a more twisted game, imagine you are perfectly sane and someone’s paying to keep you locked away inside the psych ward. Your corrupt doctor is using you as his guinea pig, since no one wants you to get out in one piece. These gloves can be a new way to introduce a painful touch in all the right places. With something like this, however, be sure you read the owner’s manual and follow all safety advice. There’s no need to ruin a perfectly good session because you were too impatient to play with your new toy to figure out how to use it. Safety is always a priority and you shouldn’t let your arousal cloud your thinking or judgment.
Sometimes, the best way to humiliate someone is to strip away all manner of privacy and let yourself into every crevice of their being. This is not a new concept and it’s certainly something that many have tried and enjoyed. However, this is usually accomplished with dildos, vibrators, or butt plugs alone, without own extremities. There is a new toy, however, called the Pleasure Periscope. This is a lighted penetration unit with a scope for you to literally see up to 4 inches inside of your sub. You can use this to visit sites previously unseen during your BDSM play and that is a real rarity. Now you know their body better than they know it themselves. They will never be able to see the parts of them that you can with this illuminating gadget. Words can’t describe the feeling of knowing that someone else has seen more of you than anyone ever will again.
If you’re interested in covering your sub’s face, restraining their breath, and dildos, you should look into a dildo gas mask. There are newer kinds that aren’t really functional so be careful what you buy. From its inception, the point of the mask was simple: breath play and total control. The mask is attached to a hollow tube attached to a hollow dildo. The dildo itself has air holes which, when inserted, are blocked, effectively cutting off air flow. This is a common way to increase blood flow and sensitivity during pleasure (the lack of oxygen, not the mask itself). Another bonus to this little device is that the wearer is practically drowned in the scent of whoever gets the business end. This can be used on the sub themselves or used by the Dom for a double edged pleasure sword.
None of the concepts behind these toys are new but they might be ones that you, yourself, haven’t used just yet. They’re a little pricier and a little more involved, but very worth it. You can use these to spice things up or use your own imagination to reinvent the toys you already have. Just because a toy is designed for a particular purpose doesn’t mean it can only be used for that purpose. If the BDSM community has found new and creative ways to use just about every utensil in the kitchen for play time, there’s no doubt they can reinvent a few sex toys. Just try to think about what you and your sub or dom/domme enjoy and go from there. There is no right or wrong to experimentation and who know, maybe the journey itself will be enough to bring you both closer together.